How to Build Your Network Without Going to Boring Events
Let’s be honest—traditional networking events can be awkward at best and painfully boring at worst. You know the ones: standing around with a lukewarm drink, making small talk under fluorescent lights, while wondering how fast you can sneak out without being noticed.
Here’s the good news: you don’t have to attend boring events to build a powerful, genuine network. Some of the best connections happen in everyday, non-cringe situations.
Let’s talk about how to build your network without the nametags and elevator pitches.
Make the First Move—Online
Social media isn’t just for vacation pics and memes. It’s also one of the easiest, least awkward ways to build relationships.
Comment meaningfully on people’s posts (not just a thumbs-up).
Send a DM when someone shares something you genuinely connect with.
Share your story, ideas, or work—people can’t connect with you if they don’t know what you’re about.
It doesn’t have to be overly curated. Be real, be intentional, and watch how people start engaging.
Turn Everyday Life Into Networking
Networking doesn’t have to be an “event”—it can happen at the gym, in the pickup line at school, or while chatting with the barista at your favorite coffee shop.
The key? Stay open and approachable. Small talk can lead to real talk. Ask people what they do, share what you’re working on, and look for ways to be helpful. You never know who you’re standing next to.
Say Yes to Things You Actually Enjoy
Instead of forcing yourself to go to a conference that makes you want to nap, say yes to the book club, cooking class, or volunteer project that genuinely excites you.
When you're in spaces you naturally enjoy, you’re more relaxed, authentic, and likely to connect with people who share your values. That’s where the magic happens.
Host Your Own “Anti-Networking” Meetups
Not seeing the kind of connection opportunities you’re craving? Create your own!
Host a:
Casual coffee meetup
Working mom brunch
Park playdate + vision board session
Walk-and-talk meetup for local professionals
You don’t have to call it a networking event—just invite people with similar interests, and let conversations flow naturally.
Be a Connector First
People remember how you make them feel. One of the best ways to build a strong network is to help others first.
Introduce people to each other. Share opportunities. Pass along referrals. Celebrate their wins. When you're a connector, people naturally want to stay connected to you.
Follow Up Without Being Weird
This is where most people drop the ball. After you meet someone cool—whether online or IRL—follow up. Send a quick message like:
“Hey! It was good to meet you. Let’s grab coffee sometime soon.”
It doesn’t have to be formal. The goal is to stay on their radar and keep the connection going.
Final Thoughts
Networking doesn't have to feel like a chore. It can be organic, fun, and aligned with your lifestyle—especially if you ditch the idea that it only happens in stiff, suit-and-tie environments.
The key is simple: be intentional, be generous, and be yourself.
Opportunities will follow.
Want to connect with other real women building businesses, raising families, and keeping it real?
Join my community (or shoot me a DM!)—because we don’t do boring events either.